This week's Q&A topic might be a bit of a sensitive one, but I'm going to put it out there anyway. I was talking to a newly-minted blogger friend recently about the subject of blogger envy—AKA getting jealous over shit that other people have or get to do that you don't. So here's my simple (but complicated) question:
Do you experience blogger envy? If so, how do you deal with it?
A lot of the blogger envy vitriol I see (publicly, at least) seems to be related to getting free stuff. "Why did she get that? Her blog sucks!" or "She obviously gets lots of free stuff because she only writes positive reviews!" (Which I realize may be the case with some bloggers, but certainly not with all.) Freebie envy is not something that I personally experience, but I wanted to mention it because (a) it seems very, very common and (b) I want to encourage people to be careful about writing shit like that publicly in forums and whatnot, because it paints a really negative picture to outsiders. Of course if you (privately) have those feelings, that's not a horrible thing—but how do you deal with them?
As for me: I'll admit that once in a while I'll feel a tinge of jealousy when I see other bloggers get really cool sponsored campaigns that I didn't get. I try to remind myself that there's probably a reason though that isn't just "You suck, Rebecca!" Maybe they have higher traffic numbers than I do, maybe they take nicer photos, maybe the sponsor wanted people who were older or younger, etc. I don't know every single thing that goes on behind the scenes. So how do I deal with it? Work on my own damn blog, haha. Try to get better at photography. And when all else fails, turn off my computer and go for a walk.
There's a type of blogger envy that even non-bloggers experience too—I'm talkin' lifestyle envy. This can manifest itself in many forms, but just to name a couple of examples: Being envious of a blogger or Instagrammer's seemingly impeccable skin or fashion sense, a parenting blogger's picture-perfect and oh-so-tidy house when your kids are constantly destroying shit, a foodie blogger's well-lit kitchen that's equipped with that stand mixer you've wanted since 1982. Personally I'm OK with being a hot mess, but I understand how a constant stream of perfection might be... well... frustrating.
There are other types of blogger envy too, but I've rambled enough for now! Let me know your feelings on this subject (and how you deal with them) in the comments.